I Love My Mr. Wrongs for All the RIGHT Reasons

I know what you're thinking, I'm a huge MJB fan but this is not an ode to her hit song "Mr. Wrong, in a sense, just a different meaning.  I know I initially said, "Mr. Wrong, but I realized that I actually had more than one so let me be clear about why I still have love for them.

I know we all have been tuning into "Love and Hip Hop" and we watch Chrissy, Emily, and Kimbella be in love with their Mr. Wrongs throughout the show. For Chrissy, its about loyalty and being with someone for so long, why leave? For Emily, it's loving someone you know is clearly (cuh-learly) wrong but being strong enough to love them enough to leave and let them go, and for Kimbella, it's about loving Mr. Wrong so much, you want to succeed in a relationship doomed for failure in order to have the family you didn't have growing up.  So which one are you?

Everyone won't identify with them but I can pull little things here and there to somewhat see where they are coming from, yet love my Mr. Wrongs, because I've grown strong enough to become intolerant of the treatment, pain, and hurt, I know I do not deserve. 

I have a few Mr. Wrongs.  I don't maintain contact with any of them on a regular basis although there is one that I may talk to every now and again just to shoot the breeze.  I applaud myself for not getting weak at times, but I know I'm stronger than before.  I won't really go into too much detail, but a majority of my relationships ended like most end, with a cheater, a few kids, and a sour conversation.  What I realized is that I will always love them for who they are, however, I love them even more for helping me realize what I don't want in Mr. Right.  You always hear the people say that some people are in your life for a lifetime or a season, or there is a reason they didn't make it to your future, etc. but the importance in all that is to take the lesson from that, turn it into a test, and be successful in its completion. 

You see everything you face after those series of lessons are tests, and its up to you to ace them the next time around or keep failing them until you learn.  As they say, when you know better, you do better and an awesome saying I heard earlier this year was something like "don't take bricks from your past relationship and try to build a new one..."  or something like that. In other words, don't take baggage from your last relationships into your new one, but do, however, take the house you built, tear it down, and build a new one, just use better tools and a new blueprint this time...well that was corny, but anyway, take what you learned and apply it as, what not to do, or what not to like, or warning signs, because you've seen it all before.  And because I've been there done that and have a t-shirt for every baby, baby mama, cheating escapade, and argument ever, I LOVE all my Mr. Wrongs for showing me I can do and deserve better, and I will love and appreciate Mr. Right for everything he is and is not...