Trying to fit a square peg into a round hole...

So it's been a hot minute since I have blogged about anything worth telling the whole world about, but not too much has transpired in that time, just a lot of learning in progress.  So the title goes, "Trying to fit a square peg into a round hole".  If you have any sense of where I'm going, then you can kind of figure out where I am going with this.

There will come a time when you realize that your life is like a puzzle.  You will try out a whole bunch of pieces to see what fits into place and what will not go.  The key to it all, is trying not to force a piece that doesn't belong.  A lot of us find ourselves doing that from time to time.  Whether it's trying to "turn a hoe into a housewife" or trying to "turn a thug or a scrub into Cliff Huxtable", some things just are meant to be.

In our lifetime, we waste our time, money, and air space on people who are just not worth any of it.  Love can overshadow that and cause us to put all of our energy into something or someone who doesn't see your effort of recognize your love as such.  They will drain you by taking advantage and change your entire perspective on love, life, and relationships.  That is a lot of power or control for someone so insignificant to have in your life.  Sometimes, they will realize what they have done, the pain they have caused, and the problems they have left unresolved, but what you will find is that these things are not worth resolving with someone who has already wasted your time.

All that in laments terms means, "why in the hell do we waste our time on selfish, sorry, busted individuals all in the name of love?"  Why?  Why?  WHY?  A lot of us think they have super natural (human) powers and that you can change or transform someone into the ideal friend, mate, lover, etc, when realistically, I have learned, that the only difference between someone at one age and another (i.e. 17 and 27) is simply the time that lapse in between.  Some may call me wrong, but if someone shows you how they are at one point, then chances are, years later, they are still the same person and the only thing that may be subject to change is their income (or lack there of), number of friends (or lack there of), and the number of kids (and baby daddies/mamas) they have.  Their personalities, character, and attitudes, however, are still the same.  They just got more experience in being even more wrong then they were before.

The moral to the story, you can't help anyone who doesn't want your help.  The only thing that can change is you letting them see that they have not broken you and they no longer have the control or their will in your life anymore.  The best revenge, of course, is being successful while they still maintain their ways.  All that will get them is what it has gotten them in the past, NOTHING, NO ONE, and they will go NOWHERE.   Let the people on their level have them.  That's the best gift you can give anyone undeserving of your goodness, your good deeds, your graciousness, and more importantly, your good heart.